I’ve spent the past couple of years coming out to people – and most of my friends and family have been wonderful, supportive and sensitive. But a few – usually people I don’t know so well – seem to need a little coaching. So I thought I’d write a piece on things not to say to trans women.
Time for new beginnings
Dear Diary, apologies for neglecting you. Truth be told, I’ve been neglecting myself a bit of late. Time to “sort ma life out” and get back on track.
The cotton ceiling and transphobia
You all know what the glass ceiling is, right? But what about the cotton ceiling – and are cis lesbians and straight men who don’t find transwomen sexually attractive therefore transphobic? Here are my thoughts.
Giving blood as a non-binary transgender person
I’ve been giving blood for two or three years now despite having a fear of needles – the pain of being jabbed is more than cancelled out by the fuzzy feeling that you could have saved someone’s life. Also, you get cool certificates and badges – yay! But things get a bit more tricky when you’re transgender. So here’s my experience to date.
Slimming World and transgender people
I’ve Googled those five words a few times over the past three years and not really found out too much – so I thought I’d write about my experiences of being a Slimming World member who just happens to be transgender – and it’s all good (well, mostly!)
I before E – accept it, for me
For those of you who don’t know, I’ve been a member of Slimming World for quite a while. Last week, I told my weigh-in lady about my trans secret. And this week, she nearly made me cry – because of the spelling of my name.
Why are ‘sissies’ losing out to tomboys?
I’ve had so many lovely messages from the Mumsnet TERF Mafia over the past couple of days – I really have! Naturally, modesty prevents me from publishing most of them. But one thing struck me yesterday – and that’s the question surrounding transgender children. What does a TERF do when little Jimmy tells Mummy “he’s” really a girl?
Question Time faux pas and ballet grand pas
Well, what an eventful 24 hours it’s been – a #bbcqt faux pas on Twitter, my best ballet lesson for months (if not ever) and coming out to someone who not only knows what a TERF is but has certain sympathies with them.
The killing of Georgie
Rod Stewart song title – seems appropriate as Georgie’s a big fan – she never did have any taste in music. So it’s all over now – not a shred of hope left anymore, counselling tried and failed. I’ve lost my partner and my best friend – and all because I’m transgender. [Read more…]
Of mice and men – telling blokes you’re trans
Some of my most recent posts have been about how important it is that trans (mtf) people tell their girl friends – so that the journey can be shared, and the whole process becomes a celebration rather than a burden or a secret. But what about telling men? I’m up to three now – but it’s a lot harder than telling the girls. Why?! [Read more…]