As someone who identifies as transfeminine non-binary, I’ve never gone so far as to call myself a woman.
Aching to pupate
Butterflies seem to be an important part of the symbolism of being transgender, especially for those about to transition, leaving that ugly caterpillar body behind, entering a second-puberty chrysalis and then emerging as a beautiful creature at the end of it all.
NB or not NB: that is the question
I began writing this post many months ago (I didn’t get past the headline) and I still don’t really have a definitive answer about whether I’m really non-binary or whether I’m kidding myself. Hopefully writing this will give me some clarity.
English dictionary trans facts for India
With about 50,000* followers on Twitter, transwoman India Willoughby is one of the most well known transgender people in the UK. But she’s just plain WRONG on a fair few issues. It’s time to set the record straight.
Telling my parents I’m transgender
bWell, telling people I’m trans is getting easier and easier. I told another lady at Slimming World – and showed her a couple of photos on my phone. It was as easy as saying “Ooooh, I’ve just got back from Greece – here’s a picture of me on the beach!” She was so positive and said I looked so happy. So why is it so hard to tell your parents?!
I may look like a bloke – but don’t call me Sir!
People keep calling me “Sir” – and “Mate”, and “Chap”. They always have, and I’ve never really had an issue with it before. But I really don’t like it anymore. In fact, I hate it. Please stop! [Read more…]
Giving blood as a non-binary transgender person
I’ve been giving blood for two or three years now despite having a fear of needles – the pain of being jabbed is more than cancelled out by the fuzzy feeling that you could have saved someone’s life. Also, you get cool certificates and badges – yay! But things get a bit more tricky when you’re transgender. So here’s my experience to date.
Forms from Nottingham gender clinic
In my post about finally getting my first appointment at Nottingham GIC, I wrote that I’d not been sent the paperwork I’d been expecting – I just received a letter telling me to telephone the centre to make an appointment. I now have them – and here they are.
Slimming World and transgender people
I’ve Googled those five words a few times over the past three years and not really found out too much – so I thought I’d write about my experiences of being a Slimming World member who just happens to be transgender – and it’s all good (well, mostly!)
Mumsnet TERFs: You’re not REAL women
As regular readers will know, I have no patience with TERFs – Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists. I had my very own “situation” a few weeks ago – and then had my say on Dame Jenni Murray’s despicable comments about trans people in a national newspaper. I decided to investigate these TERFs further. And guess what – they’re massive on Mumsnet. [Read more…]