I need to be very careful what I write here because legal wheels are in motion on several fronts, but I couldn’t let this incident go without saying anything. It’s not every day you get slandered by a TERF in the Houses of Parliament.
I first came across Dozy Posie last summer. I was sitting outside a micropub in the sunshine, enjoying a beer with my then girlfriend, Annie.
We’d tweeted a picture of us to say we were having a grand, old time, and then BANG! Posie was on us like a tonne of bricks. She tweeted:
What self respecting man decides to go out with a woman who is still a young student? One that likes controlling women.
So not only transphobic, but accusing me of being controlling (ha!) and having a go because there was an age gap. Quite a hat-trick for 140 characters max.
We took another picture, with each of us flicking the Vs at Dozy Posie, and told her to calm down. We weren’t going to let her spoil her day.
Anyway, time passed, Annie and I went on to get engaged, and then to split up. It wasn’t meant to be, and I’ve moved on. I’m pretty sure Annie has, too, now.
The last time I heard from her was a few weeks ago when she sent me an apology for some of the things she’d said after we broke up – and that she was happy and working hard on self improvement, which is great. I wish her nothing but the best for the future.
In the meantime, I’d had quite a bit more transphobic abuse from Dozy Posie via Twitter and as comments on my blog. This led me to reporting her to the police. I shall say no more about that now.
As most trans people and TERFs will know, there’s been a lot on Twitter over the past couple of weeks about two issues.
The first involves a hate rally held by infamous TERFs. This was held in a committee room (and a spot outside) at the Houses of Parliament by the vile We Need to Talk movement. It featured all the usual suspects – Venice Allen, Anne Ruzylo, Miranda Yardley et al – and was the usual nonsense – a big old echo chamber for TERFs to slag off transgender people and their rights.
The second was the legal case involving Dozy Posie and the chief executive of the Mermaids charity, which supports trans kids and their families. Dear Posie had attacked Susie Green on Twitter for allowing her trans teenager to have gender confirmation surgery abroad.
Posie has now been “helping the police with their inquiries” and is waiting to hear whether or not she’ll be charged with a string of crimes, including hate crimes.
But that didn’t stop her attending the hate rally to tell her story about the case – and to have more pops at trans people. Keep digging, Posie.
And that included me. Here’s an extract from the transcript when she was speaking about when the police first got in touch about Susie’s case:
Quite honestly, I thought it was Andy Pas de Deux, so I was quite shocked. That’s a trans, sorry, that’s a man who writes a lot about me. His girlfriend, actually I rescued from him by telling her all about me and she writes to me frequently to say I still thank you so much, thank you so much because this 22 year old amazing lass student was going out with a sad, bad, wig wearing, ballet dancing bloke.
So I thought I’d better address a few of these points.
- Andy Pas de Deux. Ah, the good old TERF trick of using a deadname. I’ve been legally Andie since last summer.
- “That’s a man…” Yep, misgender the trans person. Another classic.
- “… who writes a lot about me.” Apart from this post, I think I’ve done one other – the blog’s been going since 2015.
- “His girlfriend, actually I rescued from him…” No idea what this means but I guess it would explain why our engagement was broken off so abruptly.
- “She writes to me frequently to say I still thank you so much, thank you so much…” If this is true, it’s impossibly sad.
- “Sad…” Not quite as sad as being a keyboard warrior on the wrong side of history.
- “Bad…” I’m a good, positive, kind, compassionate person. Ask anyone who knows me.
- “Wig-wearing…” Hair’s coming back nicely now, Dozy, but thanks.
- “Ballet dancing bloke.” Gave up ballet months ago, keep up. I may or may not take it up again, not that it’s any of your business. Also, not a “bloke”, obvs.
So just three sentences, and all of them full of transphobic hatred, inaccuracies and downright slander.
I pledged earlier this year that I wouldn’t mention my ex on this blog again – we are both moving on with our lives – but I can hardly ignore this issue, so sorry if this offends Annie. My gripe is not with her, but with Posie.
I’m not going to take this attack lying down. Posie and quite a few other TERFs can expect more knocks on their doors from Plod over the next few weeks in relation to their sustained hate campaign against transgender people, and I can’t wait to see justice served.
Andie
Hi Andie,
Have sent you a message on Instagram.
No problem with what you’ve wrote, and im sorry to hear this.
As I say, if you could read my message I’d appreciate it.
Annie.
There are a number of misleading and inaccurate statements in your post
A meeting was held at the houses of parliament recently organised as part of a *we need to talk tour” You state this was organised by “A Women’s Place”. This is inaccurate.
You describe the talk which saught to open up discussion about womens rights and the potential effects on them from the proposed GRA legislation and where one of the speakers was a trans woman as a “hate rally”. This is inaccurate.
You suggest that you have been deadnamed in a transcript of an interview as in the transcript your name is spelled Andy which you now spell Andie. Yet both these names sound identical in speech so it is the transcriber not the speaker who has decided to spell your name in its original configuration. It is impossible to tell from someones speech how they are spelling a word. Your claim is unsubstantiated.
Finally you say
” I’m a good, positive, kind, compassionate person. Ask anyone who knows me.”
Having asked people who know you, this was not their opinion of you. In fact quite the contrary.
You may “identify” as having certain traits just as Trump identifies as being a stable genius. Peoples self assessment is well known for being highly inaccurate
Your misleading post seems a more telling testament of your character than your claim.
Dearest Andrew, I have changed the “vile A Woman’s Place movement” to the “vile We Need to Talk movement”. Please accept my heartfelt apologies. It’s hard to keep up with so many hateful groups of people. You claim the event wasn’t a hate rally… well, you say potato…
You also claim that a trans woman took part. By this, I assume you mean Miranda Yardley. Miranda is well known for identifying as a man – certainly not a trans woman – and for dedicating every waking hour to trolling real trans women online.
I will not apologise for the Andie/Andy remark seeing as Dozy Posie has called me everything from Andrew, Janet and John to an abuser, “controlling” and misogynistic in the past – all untrue.
I highly doubt that you have asked people who know me for their opinion and, if you did receive such feedback, then it’s from a person I’d rather have no feedback from in any case. Most people like me, so I’m OK with that.
How I identify has absoutely nothing to do with you, so I don’t feel the need to comment further.
You might also like to know that my ex and I are getting along famously once more, so at least one good thing has come out of this sorry state of affairs.
All the very best, Andrew,
Andie
Hi Andrew. I have known Andie (and formerly Andy) in real life now for 15+ years and, as I was one of the people you didn’t ask for a character reference, I thought I’d provide one anyway. Andie is by no means a controlling person, and to suggest that there was any element of coercion in her former relationship, due to the age gap, is an outrage. If anything, Andie was surprised and flattered by the attention and, without knowing or having met Annie, I confess my concern was more for Andie’s welfare than the other way round, having seen Andie get hurt before. For the record, Andie’s own self-assessment of her character is pretty spot on. But you can’t win them all and if indeed you have heard something bad from somebody who “knows” Andie in real life, I’m confident they don’t represent the majority.
Love you, Soupy. Thank you. xxx
And who the hell are you, Andrew?
Are you one of the male-hating TERF “allies” who just happen to be, well, male…?
Do you like making up things about people you have never met?
Get in the sea. And stay there!